Change of Habits

With the time, I have observed that one of the most difficult things for the human being is to change his habits. This may seem irrelevant, but if we pay close attention we will come to the conclusion that we all have many of our addicted behaviours, automated or simply repeated by habits.

Now, if on the one hand this is good, it saves us psychic energy because we do not have to learn at all times how to eat, how to drive, how to answer the telephone, etc., I think we should look at what we lose when everything, or almost everything in our lives becomes a simple or automatic gesture.

What I notice very clearly is that when we establish habits, our lives become more organized and standardized (when we always eat the same things, we always sit in the same places, we always talk in the same way, we always fight for the same reasons, we follow the same times and compromises) ... but we lost something.

Children can be a great example, for they have not yet been fully molded and shaped to correspond to society, and in them we still see that brilliance and vivacity that catches everyones attention.

There is something in the children that unfortunately we lose, sometimes very early and very fast, sometimes for the rest of our lives. There is, in children, the space for the new, for the unknown, for the discoveries. Because the child does not yet judge to know everything, he does not have answers ready and closed, and always presents himself open to the world as someone who is not yet ready, so it can be filled and renewed every moment by new information.

As adults, we have lost this fantastic ability to be always open. We lose spontaneity. Because we create habits.

Habits are comfortable, efficient, and in part necessary. But when our habits establish a routine and everything becomes equal, we stop growing because we stop discovering. We have our adult and mature interpretations of the world and everything around us, and we think we already know enough to live well and safely.

The child does not live safely (and this is what bothers and disturbs adults), and perhaps this is the key that we need to rescue in order to get a little more out of our pre-established patterns of behaviour  to see the world again with he eyes of a child (our inner child), where everything is new, everything can be done in a different way than expected, where I can allow myself to make mistakes and learn from it, where nothing is known, everything is discovered!

On the one hand, the child is always much more connected with what is in fact essential to supply his existence.

Understand that this idea does not imply immaturity or naivety  on the contrary, it suggests that we can learn to do the old things in different, new and creative ways.

It suggests trying new things or even the same things, but in a new way, with an open mind to acquire new data, never before perceived.

This attitude, in the adult, may mean not internalising preconceived ideas, or even collective opinions, of mass, of common sense, but to make the difficult, daring way to experiment for oneself, to test oneself, to do the most basic things in life in its own way, putting more of yourself into everything you do.

Because as long as we are human, we can not subject ourselves to the automation that steals our personal light, making us repeat the path traveled by all others, ways without surprises and without answers.

Our inner child has a key to offer us, and the open path of our individual pursuit can only be traversed with wholeness and happiness if we recover this key and that lost link with this primordial aspect of our being.

Give yourself the chance for change. You can discover so many new things if you just let go what is bothering you.  
A wonderful 2017 to all!
Run and smile